by Catherine King
I got an encouraging e-mail from a fellow blogger yesterday -- Jill Fallon, who runs the blog Legacy Matters. I so appreciate your concrete and straight-forward communication, Jill. Your wonderful website bravely acknowledges life and death issues with eyes wide open. It's reassuring to hear from another human who realizes we're dealing with mortal stakes here.
I also need to extend appreciation and apologies to Lynn Sislo at Reflections in D Minor. Lynn, I was really moved by your kind words several months ago. Please don't mind how my blogging etiquette is woefully inadequate. Your thoughtfull words meant a lot, especially at that time when you so presciently sent them.
Somehow, it means much more to me when I hear from a blogger. As I' ve been telling Jerome, about the only people I actually trust are bloggers who use their real names. It is so legitimizing when a person is willing to stand by their heartfelt words with their own John Hancock.
I don't know if Jill or Lynn get ugly threats from their readers, as we do at The Tears of Things, but I know they understand that an ethical writer steps out into the firing line when they start posting their true feelings on the internet.
People can get really ugly, I'm telling you people. (You know who you are). It sure would help if we could just acknowledge that funky fact. I remember when I was going back to college to get my Masters, being surrounded by psychology students, who were supported by everyone else, it seemed to me at the time, in the assertion that "everyone is just doing the best they can".
I almost took it personally. Everybody but me loved and trusted everybody else. It felt as if everbody but me was willing to deny that People can be dangerous, violent, homicidal psychosociopaths. And these were Psychology students, who should be well aware of the complexities of the Human Spirit! People who would become doctors and take your money for telling you that everybody in the whole wide world is just doing the best they can!
Oh, really? Did we live in the same world? Do we?
I have some tough, but loving, words for those beautiful, earnest souls out there who are still going out every day and doing their best at all times:
Bless you. Don't ever stop, but please be advised that almost every single other person you will ever meet is only fucking around, just getting by, cheating in the dark . . .
Sorry angel, but it's true. Which doesn't mean that you're not Beautiful and True. And that's always good.
Posted by Jerome at December 17, 2004 06:00 AM | TrackBack